There is only one thing worse than an insecure girl, and that's an insecure guy that acts like an insecure teenage girl.
You know ladies, the kind of guys that I'm talking about here. The ones that are ten times more jealous than the insecure teenage girl that checks her boyfriends phone anytime he leaves her in the room with it. The ones where they feel the need to "claim their territory" and won't stop touching you in public. BECAUSE YOUR HIS GIRL AND HE WANTS THE ENTIRE WORLD TO KNOW IT.
I've dated my fair share of guys like this and I know many other girls that do/have as well. Luckily for me I got out of the relationship quick enough for it to affect how I think about guys in general. As for my friends, many of them weren't as lucky even after many of us girls warned her about THOSE kinds of guys.
Here are some signs if you are with a guy that is secretly an insecure teenage girl:
1. He constantly has to be touching you in public, even after you told him it makes you feel uncomfortable. It could be his arm around you, he keeps kissing you on the cheek, won't let go of your hand, has to be anywhere and everywhere you are... you literally had to tell him to stay out of the women's bathroom.
2. He won't let you hang around any guy besides him, ESPECIALLY if you're alone with a guy.
3. He only uses "big words" in public/around your family/around your friends (which leads me to the next one...)
4. The only friends he really has is YOUR friends. You know the friends that after you and him break up they wouldn't be his friends anymore.
5. He doesn't ever do anything on the weekend. Always at home wanting to hang out with you and angry when you go and hang out with your girlfriends because he's scared that some guy is going to hit on you (which will most likely happen) and you're going to flirt with him (which will most likely happen too).
6. He won't stop calling or texting you. He constantly has to know where you're at and what you're doing.
7. All your girlfriends are telling you to break up with the guy, that could possibly be a sign. There has to be SOME reason that your friends/family/people in your life are telling you that he's not good for you and you need to stick up for yourself and get rid of him.
8. He calls you crazy. NO GUY SHOULD EVER CALL YOU CRAZY. If you geniunely are crazy then you probably wouldn't be reading this right now. If he calls you crazy then that's because he feels threatened about something that is going on. He needs to grow up and get a clue.
9. He constantly talks about his ex girlfriends to try to get you to feel bad/do something. Boy, don't even go there.
10. He's under the age of 22. Yeah that could possibly be a clue because guys don't normally get to the point in their lives where they are ready to settle down until about that point in time.
Do yourself and everyone in your life that are going to be hearing your complaining and get rid of him... FAST. He's not good for you, he's not healthy for you. Just stay away...
Now, I am by no means saying that ALL guys are like that, I'm just saying these could be signs that they are like this. Not all guys under 22 are insecure teenage girls, there are exceptions.
Girls can be awful and mean and well awful too. So don't even think about getting on the defensive. lol. I'm really not in a bad mood or anything. I was just listening to someone complain about insecure guys and I decided that would be something I sure can rant about for a bit. So enjoy.
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Old Fashioned Romantic movies
What happened to the old fashioned romantic movies? You know, the ones where about half way through the movie they know that they like each other but they won't ever admit it. The one where all you really want them to do is have their first kiss and you are rooting for them. Then when they have their first kiss it's like magic. The guy is a complete gentlemen and the woman is a lady. The kiss and smile at each other and it's a happy ever after ending to the movie.
Movies now hardly leave anything to the imagination. I don't know about you guys, but I do know this. Your imagination is a powerful tool. Things are so much better/intense when they leave it to your imagination. That's why I think reading horror novels are ten times scarier than seeing a horror film. Because you take the time to invest in your imagination to let it ponder and think.
Why do you think Inception was so awesome? Not only was the acting AMAZING, but the ending of the movie left everything to the imagination and you could interpret how you wanted the movie to end. You made your own ending. You made your own movie. It's like you got to have a say in how the movie ended. You discussed it with your friends and you invested time into it. We tend to love things we invest our own time into, because if we hate it then somehow it wasn't worth it and that means we wasted our time from the very beginning.
I love old fashioned movies. I wish it was more like that instead of movies like Saw showing the brutal details, where the only reason people see the movie is to watch the gore and because they've invested time in all the other movies they continue to watch the series. I want it to go back to being creative and letting us decide how it ends.
-Jen
Movies now hardly leave anything to the imagination. I don't know about you guys, but I do know this. Your imagination is a powerful tool. Things are so much better/intense when they leave it to your imagination. That's why I think reading horror novels are ten times scarier than seeing a horror film. Because you take the time to invest in your imagination to let it ponder and think.
Why do you think Inception was so awesome? Not only was the acting AMAZING, but the ending of the movie left everything to the imagination and you could interpret how you wanted the movie to end. You made your own ending. You made your own movie. It's like you got to have a say in how the movie ended. You discussed it with your friends and you invested time into it. We tend to love things we invest our own time into, because if we hate it then somehow it wasn't worth it and that means we wasted our time from the very beginning.
I love old fashioned movies. I wish it was more like that instead of movies like Saw showing the brutal details, where the only reason people see the movie is to watch the gore and because they've invested time in all the other movies they continue to watch the series. I want it to go back to being creative and letting us decide how it ends.
-Jen
Glamorization?
One of my biggest pet peeves about media today is how they glamorize stupid people. How many of us would actually be friends with any of the people on Jersey Shore? I should rephrase that to, how many of us would actually hang out with these people because we think they are SO COOL. Would they still be cool if they weren't famous and on TV all the time, and people didn't talk about them all the time? Would they be people that you saw on your school campus or in public and you would think, " oh that person looks like someone I want to get to know"?
I can't stand how the media takes all these people that really do absolutely nothing with their lives and makes them seem so cool and awesome. All the girls want to be them and all the boys want to date them (and vice versa). Their lives aren't that amazing. You think they've actually done something fulfilling in their lives? When was the last time they took time to get to know a stranger? When was the last time they sat down with someone and just asked " What is your life story?" when did they care about someone other than themselves?
People glorify these "celebrities" like they are a god. Then they wonder why their own lives are messed up, they wonder why they think some of the things that they think... or even say some of the things that they say.
There has been this long debate on how the media affects our lives as human beings. Does action movies make us want to go out and kill people? Well not necessarily. But it is proven that whatever you fill your life up with is what you put out into other people's lives.
When you get angry do you swear? Why is it you swear when you get angry? Well, think about that for just a second... where did you get that from and what made it OK to suddenly spout swear words when your angry but it's not OK any other time? You justify it because you're angry.
Or how about sex has suddenly become JUST sex. That people now think of it as just something that happens, that we do. Then we feel the need to fall into this category and even take time to CONSIDER having this thought ourselves about sex. Or that we have to have sex with someone because we need to know if it would work out between that person. Well let me tell you, if you need to have sex with someone just to prove it will/won't work out with them... IT'S NOT GOING TO WORK OUT. Sex won't be the deciding factor on that scenario. So just stop while you even think you're ahead.
The media glamorizes so many things and if we aren't careful we will find ourselves doing the exact same things by our actions throughout the day. They start with suddle changes in our lives then all of a sudden we get to this point where we have to ask ourselves... How did I ever get here? Where did all that go? I never used to be like this.
Point being, watch what you are putting into your lives. We all know the Golden Rule, right? Do unto others as they do unto you? Love your neighbor as yourself. All that awesome business.
Well if you want to be happy with yourself then you need to respect yourself.
-Jen
I can't stand how the media takes all these people that really do absolutely nothing with their lives and makes them seem so cool and awesome. All the girls want to be them and all the boys want to date them (and vice versa). Their lives aren't that amazing. You think they've actually done something fulfilling in their lives? When was the last time they took time to get to know a stranger? When was the last time they sat down with someone and just asked " What is your life story?" when did they care about someone other than themselves?
People glorify these "celebrities" like they are a god. Then they wonder why their own lives are messed up, they wonder why they think some of the things that they think... or even say some of the things that they say.
There has been this long debate on how the media affects our lives as human beings. Does action movies make us want to go out and kill people? Well not necessarily. But it is proven that whatever you fill your life up with is what you put out into other people's lives.
When you get angry do you swear? Why is it you swear when you get angry? Well, think about that for just a second... where did you get that from and what made it OK to suddenly spout swear words when your angry but it's not OK any other time? You justify it because you're angry.
Or how about sex has suddenly become JUST sex. That people now think of it as just something that happens, that we do. Then we feel the need to fall into this category and even take time to CONSIDER having this thought ourselves about sex. Or that we have to have sex with someone because we need to know if it would work out between that person. Well let me tell you, if you need to have sex with someone just to prove it will/won't work out with them... IT'S NOT GOING TO WORK OUT. Sex won't be the deciding factor on that scenario. So just stop while you even think you're ahead.
The media glamorizes so many things and if we aren't careful we will find ourselves doing the exact same things by our actions throughout the day. They start with suddle changes in our lives then all of a sudden we get to this point where we have to ask ourselves... How did I ever get here? Where did all that go? I never used to be like this.
Point being, watch what you are putting into your lives. We all know the Golden Rule, right? Do unto others as they do unto you? Love your neighbor as yourself. All that awesome business.
Well if you want to be happy with yourself then you need to respect yourself.
-Jen
Subscribe to:
Comments (Atom)
